You are a product of Grace

the butterfly academy

A collection of masterclasses and e-courses to help you embrace your metamorphosis moments.

See yourself through God’s eyes and embrace your true purpose in life. 

You don’t have to go through your metamorphosis alone…

The process of transformation isn’t an easy one. 

You want to:

  • Fulfill your full potential
  • Discover your reason for existing
  • Lean into the person God has created you to be

I’m here to help you become the butterfly you were created to be, by helping you to embrace the process you must endure in order to reach your full potential. 


Our Masterclasses & Programs

Snatching Your Identity Back Masterclass

Have you ever felt like you were having a midlife crisis?

Have you ever had questions about your purpose and your destiny? 

Do you feel you let others dictate or validate your discussion? 

Well, I have been there… Listen, I am you and you are me. 

I want to show you how I had to do the work and take the proper steps to metamorphosis into what I was created to be.  This is a process and I want to show you how I continue to do this. 

Marriage Survival Bootcamp

After you have said yes in front of your family, friends and God: after the wedding is over and you drive away with a sign on your car that says, “just married”, you find yourself excited about this new journey called marriage, until months or years later you realize that to stay married to the person you love is going to take work.

You don’t want to miss this 4-week Marriage Survival Virtual Bootcamp that will spiritually stretch you and your spouse, but will allow you to continue to grow as a spouse.

From Purpose to Profit

Do you connect with people? Do you see yourself in rooms with people that you believe have the influence to do something meaningful?  Are you effective while defining your purpose? Do you find yourself attentive and willing to help others? Do you have a team, a paid or volunteer team that helps with your purpose?  Are you willing to grow authentically, but effectively to influence others?  

From Purpose to Profit 4-week Masterclass is designed for that woman that is transitioning from her pain to identifying her purpose but needs clarity of how to gain profit while doing purpose.  

Pastor Wife Mentorship

-Pastor Tonya’s new book “Pastor wife Guide”
-Hand-in-hand guidance through all of the stages of building your platform as a Pastor’s wife
-Weekly small-group calls for clarity and motivation
-Workbooks and worksheets designed to help you get crystal clear on what you’re supposed to achieve as a pastor’s wife
-Pastor wife connection t-shirt
-Pastor Tonya’s new book “Pastor wife Guide”

The Butterfly Academy is designed to walk you through each stage of your metamorphosis. And by the end, you’ll know that you’re a product of grace and full of purpose and potential

Get access to dozens of classes, coaching sessions, and retreats

Hand-in-hand guidance through all of the stages of your metamorphosis

Start embodying God’s vision for your life

Identify your God-sized passion and purpose

Discover how to heal from your deepest wounds

Release the heavy burden of confusion about who you are


Tonya Harden

Believer | Pastor’s Wife | Mother | Author | Life Coach | Mentor | Business Consultant

I know a thing or two about struggling with your identity.

Growing up in the church allowed me to find my passion.

I knew I wanted to be a voice for you who are silently suffering. I understood that frustration within yourself can lead to you hurting others, and it became my goal to remind you to see yourself through God’s eyes…not people.

It was through an illness that I found my purpose.

19 years of journaling led me to share my story with the world by writing my first book.

It was through the process of writing that I found my identity.

Writing my story was therapeutic and healing.
After becoming a certified Life Coach, I started designing strategies with principals that will allow you to grow in every area of your life. I discovered my purpose, and I’ve gone on to impact hundreds of women just like you.

If you’re ready to step into your metamorphosis, work with me one-on-one or join my signature mentorship program, The Butterfly Academy – Mentorship.

I can’t wait to meet you.

Client love for Tonya Harden

Sign up Pastor’s wives!

Sign up Pastor’s wives! Tonya is the best mentor in the world! You will learn so much about yourself and how to use yourself and how to use your gifts for the Lord. I live in Mexico and I am taking the class! – Colleen Perez

it’s worth the investment!

Be sure to check out the butterfly academy masterclass… I took it a couple of years ago and learned so much….today is the last day to register, it’s worth the investment- Tina Davis

"I put everyone else's needs before my own..."

Unexpected things that changed my priorities were getting in God’s way and putting everyone else’s needs before my own. Losing 2 nephews on 2 different occasions, caused my faith to waiver tremendously.

In my job I am a mentor to my students, at the church, I am a mentor to our youth and our women, and at home, I’m everything else.

I didn’t know how to say “no”.

I felt overwhelmed often. I’d been holding on to past hurt but I’m finding my way back to who God has called me to be.

Lady Tonya Harden in the short time that I have been a part of your Game Changer page I have truly been encouraged and blessed. I don’t know who added me to your group but I thank God for that individual and I thank God for you being so REAL!!

I’ve never met a 1st lady like you and I LOVE IT! I’m ready to step into my next, I know without a shadow of a doubt there is Purpose in my Pain.

"This Girls Trip has been WONDERFUL, BLESSED, AMAZING..."

Lord, I truly THANK YOU for all you have done for me, through me, and what you’re about to do!!!

Again this Girls Trip has been absolutely WONDERFUL, BLESSED, AMAZING, REJUVENATING ETC! People, it is so important to listen to God and obey Him on every assignment that He puts in your Spirit because you never know who will be blessed and helped by
your obedience, amen church!

Again, Lady Tonya Harden keep obeying God; the BEST is yet to come!!! -Lynn Brown

the butterfly academy process

Before you emerge...

Stage 1: Leaving the Cocoon

While you’re in your cocoon, you find yourself wondering,

  • Who am I?
  • What is my identity?
  • Why did God create me?
  • Am I worthy of living a purpose-driven life?
  • Why is this the cup that God has given me?


You must realize...

Stage 2: Growing your Wings

During the process of your metamorphosis, there will undoubtedly be moments when you may struggle to tap into your gifts. You may wonder:

  • What are my unique gifts and talents?
  • I truly don’t think that I have a purpose…
  • What if I’m just an ordinary person with nothing to offer the world?
  • What if I’m too “insert your insecurity” to do what God has called me to do?
  • What if I have no talents?


They're waiting for you...

Stage 3: Jumping

In this stage, you know what you’re supposed to do. Even if you’re afraid to admit it to yourself, there’s a yearning and a pulling on your heart to pursue the path that God has laid before you. But your fear is holding you back. You may wonder,

  • What if I fail?
  • What if I say the wrong thing, or do the wrong thing?
  • What if people don’t like me?
  • What if they talk about me?
  • What if I don’t know where to start?


Through it all...

Stage 4: Flying

And it all seems so great, but then comes the turbulence. Suddenly, everything you feared is manifesting and you’re ready to quit. You’ll know you’re in this stage when you find yourself thinking: 

  • God, are you sure this is my calling?
  • How am I going to get the funding for…
  • What if I just quit?
  • Is this really worth it?
  • Why is this journey so difficult?


You can soar...

Stage 5 - Soaring

But through my unique 6-month program, I’m going to guide you through every face and show you how to soar. At the end of this program, you’ll find yourself with:

  • A resounding steadfastness as you pursue your goals.
  • An understanding of the importance of rest
  • A connection with God that surpasses all understanding
  • A purpose-driven mission


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